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Common Courtesy

[15:30] Random Avatar: Hello Shopping Avatar, welcome to Corporation XYZ 🙂

Imagine there is an avi named Shopping Avatar, and she has just TP’d in to a store called Corporation XYZ to do some shopping. She is greeted with the benign statement above upon entry.

Let’s take a look at that greeting again, shall we?

[15:30] Random Avatar: Hello Shopping Avatar, welcome to Corporation XYZ 🙂

What can we glean from this statement? Let’s analyze:

  1. Public chat log clearly shows the name of every typist.
  2. We can see from public chat that there is a person operating an avi by the name of Random Avatar.
  3. Random just greeted a customer on behalf of the store.
  4. Therefore, Random must be an employee of the store.
  5. Random added a smilie at the end in place of an actual smile, to convey friendliness.
  6. Logic dictates that this store employee extending a friendly greeting is doing so to convey helpfulness, should the customer require any.

I extended this very greeting just this afternoon to countless people. Most people will sacrifice the roughly five seconds it takes to type back a brief acknowledgment, such as “Hi” or “Hello”. Some will even indulge in a few extra keystrokes and tack on a smilie of their own: “Hello :)”. Others choose to ignore the greeting; perhaps they did not see the greeting in their viewer.

One person, however, chose to respond with this:

[15:30] Shopping Avatar Stupid Cow: Hello person.

Again, let’s analyze:

  1. Public chat log shows that Stupid Cow, f.k.a. Shopping Avatar, has indeed recognized the fact that she was being greeted.
  2. Stupid Cow has the luxury of taking a few seconds to type a response.
  3. Stupid Cow has replaced Random’s name with “person”.
  4. Stupid Cow is looking at the public chat log, which clearly shows the name of the person who greeted her; therefore, her use of the word “person” in place of a more courteous pronoun is obviously deliberate.
  5. Stupid Cow is being condescending, and quite possibly finds enjoyment in this.
  6. Stupid Cow really is a stupid cow.

Okay, so perhaps item six on that latest list is more of an opinion than anything else, but really, how hard is it to simply be nice? It’s not like my fragile heart was crushed by this glaring display of rudeness, but I was a bit annoyed. It’s one thing to completely ignore someone; it’s quite another to willfully go out of your way to be a twat.

I know, I know — this is Second Life, develop a thick virtual skin (as it says somewhere on the SL website, don’t ask me where). The thing is, SL is a community like any other, it just happens to exist in a virtual setting as opposed to meatspace… and like all other communities, behaving like a civil adult when the situation calls for it, and displaying just a little bit of courtesy, really goes a long way towards helping everything run just that much more smoothly.

(And goodness knows, SL needs all the help it can get in running right. o.O)

Another thing to consider (and this one really seems like plain ol’ common sense): behaving like a decent human being is also especially important if you plan on taking on a business venture. The person that we refer to in this post as Stupid Cow (I won’t give her real name but here’s a hint — it rhymes with “Sibbon Tye”) states in her profile that she’s a builder accepting commissions.

With that winning personality of hers, I’m sure she’ll get tons of work.

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Retrospect is a great thing.  ^_^  I realize now I should have added the part where she actually took the time to explain to someone why she had chosen to address me as “person”.  Here’s a copy/paste from the comments section of this post:

I probably should have added to the post that another customer who was present overheard her, and actually called her on her bad manners.

She had the nerve to justify her actions by implying that *I* was the rude person in this scenario for having dared address her without introducing myself first. o_O I guess her powers of observation are in dire need of a tune-up if she is incapable of connecting the obvious dots that clearly indicated what my name is (hello, it’s right there in chat) and the capacity in which I’d been greeting people.

Then she went on to say that I was a person, someone she didn’t know, hence her use of “Hello person”… and that if she’d wished to be rude, she would have called me something else.

/me rolls eyes

If I were to apply her logic, then next time I see her I will have to say, “Hello idiot”. :p


November 25, 2007 Posted by | Rant, Second Life | , , , | 11 Comments